“Working is my me time”: Exploring the perception of me time among working mothers

Yohana Alverina; Yuliana Hanami; Fitri Ariyanti Abidin

doi:10.24854/jpu910

Authors

Yohana Alverina Faculty of Psychology, Universitas Padjadjaran, Indonesia
Yuliana Hanami Faculty of Psychology, Universitas Padjadjaran, Indonesia
Fitri Ariyanti Abidin Faculty of Psychology, Universitas Padjadjaran, Indonesia

https://doi.org/10.24854/jpu910

Keywords:

independent leisure, me time, Thematic analysis, qualitative, working mothers

Abstract

Me time holds significance for personal enjoyment and relaxation, yet its exploration, particularly among Indonesian mothers, is limited. This qualitative study interviewed three full-time working mothers (aged 28, 30 and 36) to understand their perceptions in me time allocation before marriage, after marriage, and after having children. Thematic analysis identified six major themes: a) the importance of me time, b) factors hindering it, c) diverse interpretations, d) activities pursued, e) repercussions of inadequate me time, and f) coping strategies employed. This study underscores the significance of dedicating me time as a means to alleviate the stress experienced in day-to-day life. Maternal individuals exhibit an adaptive inclination to tailor their approach to personal time management in light of the demands imposed by motherhood. This research effectively accentuates the necessity of prioritizing me time to enhance holistic well-being and fortitude when confronted with maternal responsibilities.

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